I feel like majorly down this morning. This weekend flew by and I really love Sundays because that = church. But, I did not get to enjoy church much. Aye... First, I stayed outside in the foyer talking to Julie during first service which I love to do, because her and Kramer are hilarious! But, I had told myself that I wanted to go to 2nd service that day. Then second service rolls around and I notice that one of the moms is in the nursery and the other ladies had come to first service. And well, I felt bad that she wouldn't hear the message. So, I took her place so she could go and listen to the sermon. So, even though I am happy with what I did, and I super enjoyed hanging out with the kids, I feel a little empty today. The fuel tank is running a little low.
My second thing will be found below after all my talky talk, so that I can warn my teenage readers, if there are any today. Please, dont' read what is below. It is for married couples and I would appreciate it if you would be mature enough to avoid reading what is below. I know this warning will probably make you want to read it, but let's just be mature enough to read and then click the page off when you get to that paragraph.
Did anyone read during the weekend, if so, let me know what you read:) so that I can put your names in the drawing. The drawing is the this Friday!!
Remember, get your families involved!! I allow an entry for reading the Bible or a Bible story to your children.
My second thing will be found below after all my talky talk, so that I can warn my teenage readers, if there are any today. Please, dont' read what is below. It is for married couples and I would appreciate it if you would be mature enough to avoid reading what is below. I know this warning will probably make you want to read it, but let's just be mature enough to read and then click the page off when you get to that paragraph.
Did anyone read during the weekend, if so, let me know what you read:) so that I can put your names in the drawing. The drawing is the this Friday!!
Remember, get your families involved!! I allow an entry for reading the Bible or a Bible story to your children.
Answers to Prayer:
1. The car show went well. For its first year, it did well, I am excited to see it become even bigger next year. The youth made around $800-$1000 that weekend, but still need to get solid confirmation on that. That is a great start!
2. I think an American C-131 is going to be let into Myanmar today. Pray that they will allow it in.
Let me know if there were any answers to prayers this weekend!
CHALLENGE:
1. Keep getting that time in with God everyday! Read His Word and Pray.
2. Be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger.
I would love to hear your stories about how you all are doing with the things you are learning and applying to your life from the word of God.
Update with me about anger stuff: Well, I am noticing that I am becoming quicker to hear and slower to speak, which results in getting less angry and helps in the anger coming on quickly. I have a long way to go, but I want to thank you for the prayers and thanks for all the encouragement! How are you all doing??
NChrist, Susan
WARNING: MARRIED COUPLE PARAGRAPH
Second, ladies and gentlemen I need some advice. This paragraphy will be pretty blunt, and I apologize if it embarrasses anyone. But again, I could really use some advice. So, this will be about marital sex. 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 says, "The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does, and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time so that you may devote yourselves to prayer and come together again so taht Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self control." Okay, here is the dea-leo. We like sex at different times and we have not done a great job of compromise. He likes it in the morning and night, I like it in the day. But, when I don't give in, I feel the weight of this verse. I feel guilty and I know it is the Holy Spirit letting me know, that I am his and he is mine and that sacrifice and putting MY SELF is important to marriage. However, I am finding out that I am a very selfish person and he can be too. Don't worry, we totally have sex, but its in these awkward times that I want to rise up and be a woman of God and not be selfish Susan. Last night, I asked myself, 'Susan, what keeps you from giving in to your husband?' I thought long and hard, and I found that it was intimacy. I need intimacy before all the hooplah. You know, guys can just look and then be off to the races. But most women, like me, need time. So I told him that and we are going to work on that. I just wondered if there were others out there like me. Who have deprived or have been deprived. Boy, I hate it when I am deprived and that is another reason I was willing to ask myself that question because I know what it feels like to be deprived and its hurtful and I don't want him feeling like that. Sorry, I don't mean to ramble.
CHALLENGE:
1. Keep getting that time in with God everyday! Read His Word and Pray.
2. Be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger.
I would love to hear your stories about how you all are doing with the things you are learning and applying to your life from the word of God.
Update with me about anger stuff: Well, I am noticing that I am becoming quicker to hear and slower to speak, which results in getting less angry and helps in the anger coming on quickly. I have a long way to go, but I want to thank you for the prayers and thanks for all the encouragement! How are you all doing??
NChrist, Susan
WARNING: MARRIED COUPLE PARAGRAPH
Second, ladies and gentlemen I need some advice. This paragraphy will be pretty blunt, and I apologize if it embarrasses anyone. But again, I could really use some advice. So, this will be about marital sex. 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 says, "The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does, and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time so that you may devote yourselves to prayer and come together again so taht Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self control." Okay, here is the dea-leo. We like sex at different times and we have not done a great job of compromise. He likes it in the morning and night, I like it in the day. But, when I don't give in, I feel the weight of this verse. I feel guilty and I know it is the Holy Spirit letting me know, that I am his and he is mine and that sacrifice and putting MY SELF is important to marriage. However, I am finding out that I am a very selfish person and he can be too. Don't worry, we totally have sex, but its in these awkward times that I want to rise up and be a woman of God and not be selfish Susan. Last night, I asked myself, 'Susan, what keeps you from giving in to your husband?' I thought long and hard, and I found that it was intimacy. I need intimacy before all the hooplah. You know, guys can just look and then be off to the races. But most women, like me, need time. So I told him that and we are going to work on that. I just wondered if there were others out there like me. Who have deprived or have been deprived. Boy, I hate it when I am deprived and that is another reason I was willing to ask myself that question because I know what it feels like to be deprived and its hurtful and I don't want him feeling like that. Sorry, I don't mean to ramble.
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9 comments:
First off, Girl, you and I seriously need to get together and TALK! That's all I'm gonna say about the sexy time stuff, not because I'm too shy to spill it on here, but because I don't have enough time to type (and type and type)! You are not alone!
I haven't read yet today. I am feeling gloomy and doomy. I am going to eat a healthy lunch, get on the treadmill during nap time, then take Ori outside to play after nap. While she plays with her bike I will read in the sunshine.
I am praying both of us snap out of it and take time to recognize God's wonder all around us!
Ps 55:1-23. Hi, dear ones, especially Susan and Chelle. Even though I read the entire Psalm, verse 2 caught my attention immediately. When I have to wait for God to speak, I become so impatient and so easily distracted by the enemy (often that enemy is my own human nature). First, a note of encouragement to Chelle---don't be so down on yourself...everybody has days like this...sometimes you just have to pamper yourself a little...while you are basking in the sunshine think about all the wonderful things God has sent your way and bless Him for each one. You have already been a blessing to me. And secondly, to Susan: my dear girl there is not a woman in the world who has not been in your place....you are absolutely right...men are from Mars, women are from Venus. We each respond to sexual stimuli in different ways and that requires talking and compromising. If your husband wants you to be receptive at a certain time, he has to understand that he will need to prepare you for intimacy. Men are turned on by a look, but women require a slow seduction. Your verses imply that the man should please the woman just as the woman should please the man...marriage is a partnership, a mutual relationship. To bring about mutual satisfaction, now that takes some thinking, some talking, and some changing in both partners. Don't give up....keep working on this....it will all come together one day. Just keep loving each other and praying for each other....and keep your cool. "Women of the World Unite." (HA)
Susan, there are very few women who don't walk the walk you're talking about. Although, this is not an area we usually struggle...we have our moments like everyone. Margaret is right, you need to talk to him, but before he has other things on his mind. For instance, it was the day after a night that we had a particularly nice time in the sexual department, I reminded my husband of a few things. Things that had touched me that day and made me not only receptive to him but longing for him(when I was dog tired and didn't have the energy). He reflected on that and has tried to be aware of those things that seem so minute to him but so important to me. However, we need to do the same. I'm a night owl, Scott must be up at 4:30. I've had to work on just getting to bed so that he doesn't feel so separated from me in the evenings. My going to bed with him shows him he's important to me, which in turn has an effect on his treatment of me and my wants and needs...hey I keep winning. I like this idea! Take heart, you're not alone and the two of you together, with communication, will make it what you want it to be and how God designed it!
Thanks ladies, as ususal. Wisdom! Oh, wonderful wisdom! And chelle, we do need to get together for coffee!! And DDR. I need to get my head on straight and start getting some things planned. Hey, chelle, I have a question for ya. Are you at all interested in joining me once a month or more to do some work out time with Gladys at her nursing home. Her scooter is broken and she is really down. She has made two comments lately about cemeteries and I know she is really depressed. She has no weights and I thought I could get here some weights and maybe a light work out ball. I will probably already start doing this with her, but I wondered if you would like to join me and teach her some of your cool moves. Just let me know. I am off Mondays, Wednesdays, and have alternating rotation for Friday/Saturday each week. Thanks everybody for letting me know that I am not a FREEK!! Love always!
Gotta put my 2 cents in here -- since all my girls have added. Well, what can I add -- except, been there, done that, doing that!
Letting Bob know what I need from him is key. So, first I had to know what that was/is and I am getting better about it. Also, just remembering that we are one by God's grace and that God wants us to enjoy each other -- well, that helps me!
Truly know that you are NOT alone!
Love ya, Denise
P.S. The girls and I want to come DDR with you - it will have to be next week though.
Susan's Mommy, you are great!
Thanks so much for the encouragement!
I did go outside this afternoon and sit in the sun. I brought my Bible out an attempted to read it but I just couldn't wrap my clouded brain around any of it. I tried my favorite story, Ruth, but I just couldn't focus. S
o I did exactly what you suggested. I took off my jacket (I had a tank on underneath:D), let my shoulders feel the sunshine, closed my eyes and just began thanking God for every little thing I could think of.
Needless to say, I was out there a while and got a little sunburn :)
Later on this evening I really got a word from God while typing up one of my own blogs for later this week.
Can't wait to post Wednesday's blog!
Ori and I read the story of Jesus and the Roman Solider before her bedtime.
As far as Ms. Gladys goes - GIRL I have been wanting to get with her for a looong time! I would love to join you!
I have gots to call you tomorrow...
AND DITTO WHAT DENISE SAID!
You have to tell him what you need from him!
I know you want him to "just know what you want" but that isn't fair...
AND when he tries to do what you tell him you want RIGHT AFTER YOU TELL HIM, don't pout and say, "I didn't mean right now", let him have at it!
;D
Ladies, you are a blessing to me each day! I am so glad I get to hear from you all each day! Wow, God is awesome and I am ever so thankful! Thanks for all the advice and I am looking forward to working on all of this. I really want to get to that 200 mark Chelle. ;)
See you all tommorow and Good Night.
I have continued to read James over the last few days. I finished up chapter 2 hits morning, so i'm moving slowly but surely. I'm learning a lot though. It was a good place to start!
As a newly married woman, I don't have much to say about the bedroom issue, but I will agree that you need to tell him what you want and he should be willing to help you.
Hey girl! so I totally hear you on the whole sex issue. I feel like we are to the point of where it needs to be scheduled. With us both at work and school, we usually fall in to bed exhausted. I never really understood that verse until this year, especially this semester. When we haven't had sex in a while, Satan totally gets in there. Not necessarily with porn or anything like that, but I feel our relationship being pulled apart. It is then when I realize just how key it is to marriage. And its not that we don't enjoy it, it has now come down to finding time, which is super sad. But you are also right on the whole intimacy thing. I can't come home after working both jobs and basically say hop on baby. I need time to talk with him and feel like I am important. I think most marriages struggle with what you all are struggling with now. Don't think you are alone!
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